“You’re brave to be open about your miscarriages and talk about your babies.”
Am I?
Are you brave for talking about your children?
Am I brave to talk about Elli Mae and Eden?
No.
It’s normal.
And it’s normal to talk about the babies that are waiting for us. There is no shame in speaking their names, if they have them, and you should feel free to speak of them without fear of making someone “uncomfortable.”
You don’t stop being a mother if your baby dies.
The moment that test is positive, the DNA of that baby is already part of you. You’ll carry that baby with you, all your life.
All the milestones that you dream of.
All the birthday parties.
All the memories you don’t get to make.
One moment, you’re dreaming of it, having an avid dialogue within yourself, and the next moment…silence. The silence is so lonely, and the world goes on. And you long for someone to tell you that your baby matters.
So let me do that.
They matter.
No one else could touch the lives that this child will touch, even if they were only carried for a moment.
They were created with a purpose.
Knit together, even for a moment, by One who fully knows them.
They were loved every second of their lives, they’re a part of you, and they know it.
Maybe they didn’t hear your voice.
Maybe they didn’t open their eyes to your face.
But they heard your heartbeat with love for them on the inside.
They opened their eyes to see His face.
They are worshiping the One who knows them so fully. They have never felt alone, forgotten, or unloved. They passed from your love to the perfect love and light of Christ.
What a beautiful song they must sing, as they lift tiny hands to the One who says “suffer the little children to come unto to me.”
You’re not brave for talking about your baby(s).
You’re a mother.
That’s what mothers do.
And no one deserves that title more than you.
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